Effective July 1, 2010, there is a new form of alimony called durational alimony. This is an alimony option available in addition to the other forms of alimony which remain available in the appropriate case. Durational alimony is appropriate in cases where bridge-the-gap alimony (which is limited to 2 years in duration) is insufficient to assist the spouse in becoming self-sustaining, but the party does not meet the requirements for permanent alimony. Durational alimony can be awarded for a period of between 2 years and the number of years the parties were actually married. In addition, the new statute defines a long term marriage (where there is a presumption in favor of permanent alimony where there is a significant disparity in income between the parties) as more than 17 years.

One of the most attractive aspects of collaborative law for many clients is the fact that it is conducted in private, with the exception of the uncontested final hearing. In the privacy of one of the lawyer’s or other professional’s offices, the clients can discuss sensitive issues that they might prefer not to air in the public arena of the courtroom; further, the neutral Mental Health Professional guides that discussion in a way that fosters constructive communication among all of the participants, including the attorneys. Another appealing aspect of collaborative law is its flexibility in scheduling. In traditional litigation, virtually nothing happens at the convenience of the clients. In collaborative law, the clients, their lawyers and the neutral professionals schedule everything cooperatively and thus avoid inconveniencing the other members of the collaborative team. In addition, the clients are not under pressure to dispose of their case according to the Court’s often arbitrary docket, which gives them the time to deal with the emotional aspects of the divorce, experiment with different parenting time schedules, sell a home, or do whatever else needs to be done before they finalize their divorce. But by far, the best reason to consider Collaborative Divorce is that you minimize the emotional impact on yourself and your children, preserve a positive relationship with your spouse, and move forward in the next phase of your life without all the anger, resentment and stress that traditional divorce inevitably generates. This is in stark contrast to the stressful nature of litigation, which engenders mistrust, hostility, animosity and long term resentment. High conflict divorces lead to high conflict post-divorce relationships. By eliminating the conflict and the stress that the litigation process itself inflicts on the parties, collaborative law allows the parties to begin healing from those conflicts and stresses that caused the breakdown of the relationship, without adding the toxic effect of litigation.

It takes a tremendous amount of courage to leave an abusive relationship. You need as much support during this traumatic time as you can get. No one deserves to be victimized and abused. You must develop an escape plan that ensures your safety. After securing yourself, you should contact law enforcement and report the crime. The State Attorney’s office will prosecute with your cooperation. In addition, you can obtain a civil Injunction at the courthouse. There is a domestic violence intake office that will assist you in filling out the forms. It may be helpful to consult an experienced family law attorney in advance to get some expert guidance on what to say in the Petition for Injunction. Certain requirements have to be met for the Injunction (often referred to as a restraining order) to be granted.

Women in Distress of Broward County, (www.womenindistress.org) is an invaluable local agency that assists women who are the victims of domestic violence. Their 24-hour emergency number is 1-800-500-1119. The Gay and Lesbian Community Center, (www.glccsf.org) serves the gay and lesbian community in Broward County, and has a support group for the survivors of domestic violence. The GLCC’s hotline is 954-761-1133.

Domestic Violence is a crime. But it has to be reported in order for you to get the help and protection that you need. Call 911 and report domestic violence, the very first time that it happens. You may just be saving your own life.

Section 61.13001, Florida Statutes (2006), titled “Parental relocation with a child,” establishes the procedures involved in the relocation of a child, whether relocation is sought after agreement between the parties or alternatively contested by one party. In the case of a contested relocation, the Legislature has stated that “[n]o presumption shall arise in favor of or against a request to relocate with the child when a primary residential parent seeks to move the child and the move will materially affect the current schedule of contact, access, and time-sharing with the nonrelocating parent or other person.” § 61.13001(7), Fla. Stat. (2006). Instead, section 61.13001(8) states:
The parent or other person wishing to relocate has the burden of proof if an objection is filed and must then initiate a proceeding seeking court permission for relocation. The initial burden is on the parent or person wishing to relocate to prove by a preponderance of the evidence that relocation is in the best interest of the child. If that burden of proof is met, the burden shifts to the non-relocating parent or other person to show by a preponderance of the evidence that the proposed relocation is not in the best interest of the child.
(MORE TO COME)

Florida is a no-fault divorce state. What this means to you is that it frankly just doesn’t matter why you’re getting divorced. It only takes one spouse, who has been a resident of the State of Florida for six months prior to filing the Petition, to say that the marriage is “irretrievably broken” and that it cannot be reconciled. That gives the Court jurisdiction to grant a divorce. Who did what to whom is not going to be a factor in your divorce unless there is child neglect or abuse involved, or if a spouse is spending marital assets on an adulterous affair. The former may impact child custody and time-sharing, and the latter may impact the equitable distribution of your financial assets and liabilities.

Just because you are getting divorced doesn’t mean that your responsibilities to one another are over. You both have an obligation to protect your marital assets. You can’t go on a spending spree or start hiding marital assets. It won’t work. There’s always a paper trail, and I have yet to meet a client who was smarter at hiding assets than any half-decent private investigator (or intrepid spouse) couldn’t find using the internet and some good old-fashioned detective work. Transfers to family members are automatically suspicious. Don’t bother. Be honest. You’ll get through the whole process much more easily. You cannot cancel your spouse’s insurance, stop paying ‘their share’ of the bills when you’ve always been the primary breadwinner, and otherwise change the way things had been prior to the filing for divorce. A good rule of thumb is if it seems wrong it probably is wrong. If you wouldn’t want it done to you, don’t do it to your spouse. This is not a time for one-upmanship or spite.

A Restraining Order (or Injunction for Protection Against Domestic Violence, as it is formally known) is sometimes necessary in the context of a divorce proceeding. These injunctions are covered by a separate statute, Chapter 741. If you have been the victim of domestic violence, it is essential that you disclose this at our first meeting. No one deserves to be the victim of domestic violence. If you believe you are in need of such a restraining order, advise the office immediately after you’ve contacted the police or gone to the Emergency Room, if applicable. It is not necessary for you to have an attorney to go with you to obtain the temporary injunction (which expires within 15 days), as there will be no hearing. The Judge will decide whether you’ve met the requirements from the Petition for Injunction that you will fill out at the Courthouse. However, you may want representation when you appear at the hearing that the court will schedule to determine whether the temporary injunction should be made permanent. If your spouse has filed for a restraining order against you, it is essential that you have representation at the hearing. However, this office does not represent defendants in criminal domestic violence cases (if you were arrested for domestic violence), but does represent defendants in civil domestic violence cases (where you weren’t arrested, but were merely served with a temporary injunction for protection against domestic violence).

Everyone wants to know about alimony. Are they entitled to it? Are they going to have to pay it? There are several different kinds of alimony, but they all have some things in common. In almost every instance, in order to qualify for an alimony award, the court must find that one party has a need for it and the other party has the ability to pay it.

Permanent, periodic alimony is the first thing people think of when they think of alimony. Those monthly payments that end only when the receiving spouse remarries, cohabitates or dies. Permanent alimony is awarded in cases of a long-term marriage. Exactly what qualifies as long term depends. If you’ve been married for less than 12 years, yours is not a permanent alimony case. If you’ve been married for 12-14 years, you’re in a gray area where a Judge may or may not award permanent alimony. If you’ve been married for 15 years or more, chances are likely that the Judge would award permanent alimony if there is a need and ability to pay. Permanent alimony is generally non-taxable to the paying spouse (deducted from your gross income before taxes) and it is taxable to the receiving spouse (added to your gross income before taxes).

Child Support in Florida was made easy by the Florida Legislature. We have a statute (61.30) that outlines child support for us. Child support is determined by adding together your net income and your spouse’s net income, and depending on how many children you have, the legislature has already figured out for you how much you should spend to raise your children, given your net available income. Each spouse contributes a certain percentage to that “income pie”. Multiply your percentage by the amount the legislature has set as child support, and that tells you how much child support will be. Note: in alimony cases, alimony must be figured before child support, since the paying spouse affects both parties’ incomes, which must be determined before calculating child support.

In addition to baseline child support, there are calculations for health insurance and day care expense, if applicable. Those amounts are added to the base child support obligation or allocated between the parties. Each party is credited with the amounts that they pay on behalf of the other party, since only one parent pays for health insurance and for day care, although both are responsible for their percentage. Uncovered medical, dental, psychological and orthodontic bills and co-pays are also paid on some percentage basis (whether 50/50 or proportionate to your incomes). Special needs children are subject to additional consideration.

By Judy McGuire
(The Frisky) — The biggest, baddest, most terrifying part of falling in love is opening up and letting yourself be vulnerable. When it works, love can seem like the stuff of fairytales: you meet someone, you get to know and like each other, you enter into a mutually trusting and respectful relationship, you fall deeply, madly, hopelessly in love, and you live happily ever after.
At least, for a while.
But all too often it works out less well. Trust is shattered. Hearts get broken. Tears are shed.
Once a lady’s been put through the emotional wringer a few (dozen) times, she gets a little wary. A little closed off. She can start to mistrust her judgment. Second-guess her gut. Worry she’s going to die alone, leaving behind a feline-gnawed corpse and a stack of tear-stained Netflix romantic comedies.
So, it’s not always easy to know whether to let someone in or if you should just flip the “ditch switch,” instead. On the one hand, you want to be open to the possibilities, but, on the other hand, nobody wants to be a sucker.
Once you finally decide to hoist yourself back up and onto that dating pony, here are a couple types to watch out for:
1. He has children he doesn’t see and/or support. Make no mistake — kids can really slap a stinky, wet diaper on the flames of love. Your guy might blow you off because his toddler’s running a fever, or maybe he doesn’t have much money because he’s doling out child support. As annoying as this may be, the upside is it shows he’s a responsible adult.
Deadbeat dads can start out as a lot of fun, but how he treats his children is a good indicator of how he’s going to treat you. If he can abandon his own flesh and blood, you can be sure his loyalties are as flexible as your yoga teacher’s spine.
2. All his ex-girlfriends are “crazy.” Chances are if all the women he’s dated are nuts, his behavior likely went a long way towards making them that way.
3. He’s heavily invested in his “persona.” We all know guys like this. Richard is the crazy life-of-the-party guy! Then there’s Jon, the sarcastic intellectual. Dean is heavily influenced by 1940s gangster style; his clothing is all vintage, and his apartment is like a time capsule circa your granny.
While these dudes might be appealing, they rarely get real. Richard may be charming, but being around someone who’s always “on” is exhausting. Jon may be the smartest guy you’ve ever met, but he can also be the cruelest. And Dean? Well, he’s hot, but he spends so much time looking back, how can he possibly look towards the future?
4. He’s a compliment miser. The guy you’re dating should make you feel like the prettiest, funniest, smartest, most amazing creature in the entire stratosphere. That’s not to say he should spew inane flattery 24/7, but he should tell you how hot you are at least once a week — if not more often.
Because if you’re not the prettiest, funniest, smartest, most amazing creature who’s ever crossed his path, what the heck is he doing dating you in the first place?
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