The day you say, “I Do” may already be one of the top 5 predictors of divorce – if you are still in your teens or your mid-30’s or older.
Now, if you married at one of those times, and are having trouble in your relationship, that does not mean you should pick up the phone and call a lawyer. You would likely be better served to call a marriage counselor first to try to save your relationship.
Getting married in your teens is one of the leading predictors of divorce, with marriage in the late twenties appearing to provide the best chance for long-term happiness. After the age of 32, according to Professor Nicholas Wolfinger from the University of Utah, divorce odds increase around 5 percent each year.
Another one of the top predictors of divorce is lack of education. When at least one of the partners did not complete high school, the chance of getting divorced was higher than those marriages where both spouses completed college.
Lower education often equates to reduced income. Money is a common cause of divorce, and lack of income can easily lead to arguments and discord in the home.
Silence is not always golden in a marriage. Divorce attorneys often state that the “silent treatment” by one spouse leads to feelings of resentment and anger. Shutting down, withdrawing, or keeping your feelings to yourself are all key predictors of divorce.
When one partner withdraws, the other may become demanding – trying to break through to get to the root of the problem. This often heightens the behaviors and can result in one spouse becoming controlling. While control issues may be another divorce predictor on their own, it is also important to understand that they can stem from silence and withdrawal, as well.
Focusing too much on work is one of the five predictors of divorce. Family should always come first, and even though you need your career to provide the necessary income to support your family, spending too much time away from home may lead to you no longer having a happy home to come back to at the end of the day.
One of the problems stated by busy spouses is the issue of having to “work” all day on the job and not wanting to have to “work” at a relationship. The desire to come home at night and just relax can lead to resentment with the other partner. Your marriage is the most important job you will ever have, and it is the only one that is meant to last your lifetime. Remember, someday you will retire from your career, the children will be grown and gone, and it is your spouse that will be there – if you have properly nourished the relationship throughout the years.
When it comes to the top predictors of divorce, speaking about your relationship in negative terms or treating your partner with contempt all but guarantees trouble down the road.
There is a saying that what you put out into the universe comes back at you, and the more negativity you speak about in your relationship, the more you will continue to see and experience negative behaviors and attitudes. In any situation, you can find something positive or negative. If all you find in negative, you will never allow yourself to enjoy the positive.
Holding your partner in contempt, seeing them as beneath or not worthy of you can rapidly lead to a decline in your relationship.
Speaking with a marriage counselor may help save your relationship. If you know that divorce is the only answer, it is always best to talk with a divorce attorney.
If you are looking for the easiest, quickest, and most inexpensive way to get a divorce, then Florida Divorce Law’s Basic Divorce package is what you need.
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